True Love or In Love…That is the Question.
Have you ever counted how many times you say you love something in a day? Of course, I love my kids, my friends, and even my dog but I have also been known to love the Eagles, the mint chocolate chip gum they just came out with, and the new stilettos that arrived at my store today. The word “love” has become overplayed and it made me wonder if perhaps that why we all go crazy when we are in love and are searching for love.
Never has a human emotion filled up our internal gas tanks like that warm fuzzy feeling of being in love. There is that excited rushed followed by uncertainty that can make the cockles of our hearts overflow with adrenaline. Being in love can most of the time catch us a bit off guard because the emotion behind it is so strong and powerful that the rush is almost instant gratification. The same can be true when you make a tray of homemade macaroni and cheese on a cold winter’s night. If the smooth warm texture of cheese tantalizing your tongue doesn’t make you scream “love” I don’t know what will…our quest for instant gratification once again.
I don’t mean to trivialize the arrival of cupid’s arrow and while I do think there is a jump from infatuation to being in love, I also believe you can be “in love” more than once in your lifetime. I love the stories told by older generations of how they married their first girlfriend and have been in love for over fifty years but for most of us the travel through life has not been so romantically clad. For some of us, we fall in love only to find that they forgot to put the prize in the Cracker Jack box or that princess we fell head over heels for has chosen another Prince Charming. Others fall in love and through circumstances and misfortune find themselves broken-hearted for not following the one person they really loved. So could it be that we are not all looking to be “in love” but in fact we are all searching for “true love?”
Many would argue that being in love is true love but I don’t think that is always the case. True love has a different platform to reach. It absolutely has all the same criteria as being in love but true love only happens once in a lifetime. It is beyond the rush, the excitement, and the hysteria. It is that love that stays with you. No matter where life brings you or whether you are separated by oceans or years, true love sustains. It conquers time, hurt, disappointment, distance and no matter what the circumstances, true love never leaves our hearts. True love is never nurtured in abuse but flourishes in the warm sunlight of human kindness. Your true love encourages you to be the best you can be, laughs with you, shares common likes and gently spars with you in your differences and is someone who you know life would be terribly different with them not in it. I believe we are all on a quest to find true love. Or, we are always trying to return to the true love that got away.