Being a shoe designer is like in-house therapy. Depending on my mood, my shoe creations might be edgy, feminine, classy…. Most of my creations are unconventional and were inspired by life events. My latest high heel/stiletto is called “Justice.” This stunning four-inch heels began as a nude Mary Jane stiletto. It was classic and feminine and the nude coloring was certainly neutral and elegant. My daughter is an avid shooter and one day after a few rounds she came home with the brass shells. They were tiny and unusual-almost having an antique feel to them as they had been traveled through the barrel of a gun. I asked her to collect them for me next time she went because I had an idea for a shoe.
Not long after, I had a bag of brass shells sitting on my desk. Delighted to see them, I began immediately to create a high heel that would make a statement. With embellishing glue, I attached the shells close to the bottom of the shoe and right above where the platform started. This shoe was getting more and more exciting with each add-on. Soon the first stiletto was completed and I started with the next. The drying time was a few hours and I was really pleased on what had been created thus far. Yet bullet shells alone did not make the statement. I played around with adding more shells and soon I started gluing them down the stiletto heel. Each shell casing protruded outward giving the shoe a very unique look not to mention making the shoe looked tough…how I felt about the “justice” system and domestic violence.
The shoe is will be available on our website DeborahStilettos.com, our Facebook pages www.Facebook.com/DeborahStilettos and www.Facebook.com/HeelingInc. A portion of the proceeds of this shoe, now available for $69.00, will go to assisting families coping with domestic violence. So buy these shoes and lend your support to a worthy cause…you will be sure to be a show stopper with them on. Ciou Bellas, Deborah Stilettos, www.DeborahStilettos.com
Who doesn’t want to be happy? We all do on some level. We read books, attend seminars, watch shows, listen to music all for this quest for happiness and yet some of us struggle to ever to get there. I was at church this past weekend and it seems like every Sunday I leave with another …”aha” moment. Perhaps I am more open than I have been in the past to process a new concept. This blog is not about the fundamentals of religion or the history of the bible…there are by far better blogs, books and sources to ascertain that information. No… this blog is based on something else I learned. That life is not about working harder or doing better. It is about training ourselves to do things differently…the habit of finding happiness.
I have caught myself, more than one occasion talking about the same old problem…making the same old resolutions…swearing off the same toxic relationship only to have myself right back in the same position not too long after and I wonder why. I think it would be safe to say we all find ourselves repeating old behaviors or actions because we have actually programmed ourselves to living this way. We may not like where we are but it is a lot less scary than not knowing where you are going. And who would not agree that retraining ourselves is not always the easier thing to do…or is that what we have ourselves believing?
I think each of us is based on the concept of a triangle. Whenever I bring this concept up, people are amazed on the idea but it is remarkably true. The top of the triangle represents what is most important to us. It could be love, family, our careers…dig deep you will find it. The bottom two corners are also important…slightly lesser maybe than the top yet equal to the other on the opposite side. When you have a made three specific choices, think about someone who might have been detrimental in your life. Or a career that interrupted the shape…or a special person in your life who was so special that they took all of your corners off leaving you now with a circle, a zero, a hole.
It makes you wonder if it’s a habit worth holding onto or a habit worth replacing with a new one? The happiness habit doesn’t come from a day at the beach or at the mall. It comes from the conscious decision to enjoy life, enjoy the gifts we are presented with everyday and to enjoy now. Sometimes that is easier said than done. I can relate. There are days that rolling back into bed with my host of bad habits and hang ups would be a welcome relief…less taxing and a whole less complicated. They say that for every minute you stay stuck is sixty-second lost of happiness. A drop in the bucket until to you realize that you have been stuck for the past ten years…don’t worry I won’t even tell you how many seconds that is.
So now that Pandora’s box has been swung off the hinges…what to do about the hole you’re sitting in. That’s when this becomes exciting…you are in total control of what happens from this point. You can set up a chair and sit in the hole you have carved out for yourself or dig out using a teaspoon or a shovel. For me the process was easy…I was so sick and tired of being sick and tired. I took a long deep look at myself and then made some drastic changes. I stopped trying to figure out who didn’t approve of me and started to more discerning on who I wanted in my life. Anyone…anyone who was armed with a pair of scissors ready to cut off one of the corners of my triangles I said goodbye. I found a career that made me happy and highlighted not only the things that I was good at but the things I really love doing. I learned to stop and admire my children for the wonderful adults they were becoming. I surrounded myself around people who were encouraging and supportive and not sitting with their foot out ready to me trip me as I walked by. It was difficult but the hurdles were so worth the true bliss I have today. I just had to train myself to believe that I was placed here on earth to be happy and in return give back. Kisses Bellas, Deborah Stilettos www.Facebook.com/HeelingInc.